Friday, August 10, 2012

Fun and not work

I really should be winding down from two days at the Oklahoma Women in Agriculture Conference.  Instead I am winding down with a glass of wine from a day of hiking and swimming with Jack and Bell.    I feel guilty that this is what I chose and I think Jack wishes I had gone.  On the other hand, I did not think I could handle the stress I knew I would have felt if I had gone.

Months ago, I met a woman from OSU who invited me to the Women in Ag thing and I promised myself that I would go. I hate driving in the city, and though this was in Norman, that was still too much traffic for me, so Jack had planned on going too and doing cool stuff with Bella all day.  But then last week we had company, it got too hot to be in the city dragging Bell around, I discovered that my new class room was  a wreck, and I found out that my grandparents would be down visiting at their cabin on my folks' place.  We meant to take Bell for a single day of fun somewhere and did not get it done last week.  I still could have registered for the conference this week, but things just got crazy.  In addition to really feeling a pressing need to see the grans, my cousins from Montana were at my folks' for one evening. I managed to get out to see them and then worked in another visit with the grans at the cabin.  I had a chiropractor appointment . . . But I canceled at the last minute.  Somewhere in there, I thought my other doctor would finally want to see me about my messed up hand (I really feel too young for carpal tunnel but I seem to have it).  I wanted to get the  house really in order and all my work clothes ironed . . . I know, silly right?  Who stresses about ironing?  Oh, and I thought Jack's brothers would be up visiting this weekend for his dad's birthday.


It was all just too much with the Ag thing included . . . So I chose grandparents (Grandma just turned 78 and there won't be many years left), cousins, clean house, and a day with Bell.  It did not all get done.  The classroom is better, but still needs work.  I am going to dust tomorrow and clean the cars.  But I had today with the two greatest things in my life and that is good. Why, I also saw a giant pile of spiders which was creepy but cool. It was all worth the sunburn.

So maybe I will go to the conference next year and maybe it will not be 3 days before I start a new job.  Perhaps I missed meeting some vital contact or missed out on a grant opportunity.  I just know that even though Jack's friend said it was a great conference, my eye is not twitching yet and that is a good sign. I am okay with all this.

2 comments:

  1. One of the lessons I've learned, and am still learning, is when to say No. Figuring out when I've over-extended myself and shutting it down. That has meant calling people and saying, "I'm not going to do the backyard grilling night tonight. let's go someplace and eat instead." or after saying I would drive 40 minutes to see people, at the last minute saying "i need to stay home"

    You aren't alone in this. and I totally understand feeling guilty, or feeling like you've let someone down.

    But that's ridiculous. It really is.

    The best version of You is the one that recognizes when to say when.
    That You, better serves those that you love as well.

    You've got this. The new job. The ironed clothes. The time with the family.
    All is as it should be.

    anytime you need someone to drive you around you just hollar at me.

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  2. The clothes did get ironed, even the pair I have to lose 5 lbs to wear. And thank you for the driving offer . . . It is one thing I have to deal with if we ever get really into the farmer market scene.

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